Designing Fairy
Educational Inventor, Whimsical Illustrator, and Inspiring Teacher
Help! I'm
Sensitive
Pocket book of support
You may have spent your whole life trying to shut your sensitivity down, like I did. Instead, the abilities surface through nervousness and anxiety, belly aches, or even depression.
You may have felt fear about your abilities, but you really do have control with them, once you have tools and understanding on how to use them.
You may have felt the backlash of your sensitivity living in an insensitive world–you’re sensitive to foods, and the environment. Everything makes you rash out. Too many people overwhelm you. Those are the times you curse being you.
I wrote a book and had a successful blog for many years helping others like myself deal with their sensitivity. Take the quiz and see if it resonates. I have something for you that will help.
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It is my hope that the following tools will help you find your balance again and repair what’s been lost.
D e t a i l s about the book:
Price: $11.99 paperback version
Product details: 83 page paperback book
product description:
Are you a sensitive? Do you feel everyone’s emotions as if they were your own? Walk away from talking to a sad friend and are sad or tired and drained? Have you ever been told you need to “toughen up?” As sensitive little empaths we came in wired to feel everything strongly and be super tuned-in psychically to our environments. We needed tools to navigate this foreign world, and many of us didn’t receive those growing up.
Teaching through sharing my stories: My e-book is jammed pack with 50 new tips and tools to put in your psychic self-care pocket to be able to live as a sensitive and really thrive. Organized by problem, entertaining, down to earth, practical stories throughout illustrating each tool or lesson, you will walk away understanding how to handle the specific issues most empaths deal with and what tools to grab for.
topics include:
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The belief that being an empath is unsafe–true or untrue?
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I get too involved in other people’s lives–is there a solution?
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Losing yourself around others–use this tool
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Dealing with non-empathic people–an alternative to living in a cocoon
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Mouse theory and psychic vampires–it’s how they get to you
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Empathic overload–the symptoms
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How to know you are carrying, not caring
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and many, many more tools.
The sensitive’s bible! Everything you need to refer to to tame your sensitivity and rethink how you see it. You NEED this book.
great reviews:
“When the student is ready the teacher comes. Well this is so true with your book. I consider myself so blessed with my work and there was always this one place where I was most vulnerable, my sensing. I knew that before some of my sessions and after even days after, I would get physically ill, stomach aches, headaches and chest tightness are the most common. Sentience has always been my frenemy. I really truly appreciate the divine timing of finding your book, I have recommended it to so many others. It makes this real it real, validates it for me and that it’s not just a side effect of being a really rockin’ psychic.
A few things have helped me specifically right now: compassionate detachment- working on this with my children, the turtle shell LOVE THIS- the bubble is not enough when in group situations, the story about going to the vet and how “that stuff” referring to our work as if it were anti- God, and the story about the counselor, I have been in both these places! Take a stand and walk away.
I just cannot express how life changing this is- I needed it, I had no idea how to find it, and pop there is was.
My guides have also been giving me lots of info about my physical body, again another area I tend to stay away from and it is now demanding my attention, so much so that my empath stuff has started to process inside my physically body, which means for me HELLO big red flag!- learn how to process this energy before it causes problems. Its a management style I need to learn and I am ready. Thanks again!
– Bridgette Doerr, http://www.seebridgette.com
“I just finished reading my kindle version of your book! Wow–so many useful tools! And I now feel like I understand myself better and value my sensitivity. I’m going to order a hard copy of your book so I can quickly find a tool when needed. Thank you for your explorations and sharing with us all with your book. I look forward to the next volume!” — Ruth Elsesser, Arizona
“I love that Ronni’s encouragement to keep going is so strong, it’s like having a higher-self in your pocket saying life can beautiful if you make an effort to listen to your empathic self with love.”– Tarz Jefferis, a.k.a., “Indigo Cherub”, Australia
“This is a really handy resource book for all those sensitive, empathic people out there who feel bombarded and overwhelmed by the world around them. It provides a very focused and well-explored pathway for self-protection, and some really useful insights into what it means to be empathic – or to feel other people’s emotions and feelings as though they are your own.
It can be a little bit scary for those who haven’t had time to feel out and understand what is going on inside them. This book helps to tame that fear, making us empathics, more self-sustaining and balanced!
Ronni has this great way of being economical with words, to the point and, exploratory with the personal stories, ideas, tips and tools that she presents. She’s a healer, so she’s to the point, and expansive at the same time! That’s just the way I see her energy works…” — Monique Williams, Australia
“Ronni’s book is extremely easy to follow and you don’t have to read it front to back. Actually, the first time I picked it up, I skimmed it for topics that were interesting or pertinent to me at the time, and read it that way. Actually, it would be a useful guide to reach for any time you are going through a sensitive matter or mood, or need some guidance to understanding why you are feeling so emotional, sensitive, down or just plain wierd. Sometimes us sensitives easily forget just how much we get affected by other people’s energies not to mention environments!” — Natalia Kuna, Australia
“I recommend Ronni Ann Hall’s book for anyone learning to deal with their psychic sensitivities. Reading her book feels like listening to the advice and stories of a close friend…What I really love about Ronni’s book is that she writes from personal experience. She gives so many examples of everyday situations that presented lessons for learning how to integrate and refine her empathic abilities. She talks about experiencing panic attacks when taking in too much energy (which is something I can totally identify with.)” — Jen LoveJoy, USA
“Help! I’m Sensitive: 50 Tools for the Sensitive to Help You Survive & Thrive By Ronni Hall is an amazing book for sensitive people!!! Ronni shares her amazing insights and lessons on how to deal with being a sensitive person!!! She covers many topics such as using your gifts, dealing with psychic vampires, clearing yourself and valuing yourself! Thank you Ronni! I could really relate to all of the tools she gives regarding common situations. In one part Ronni talked about ways to get centered after being bombarded by energies! I found this lesson to be extremely therapeutic and eye opening! As a sensitive person I thought I just had to suffer in the world! Ronni explains how who we are is a gift and through self awareness sensitive people can thrive! I am looking forward to more books from Ronni!” -Andrea Dombecki, Contributing Editor of The Faeries and Angels Magazine
“I’ve been invited to review HELP! I’M SENSITIVE. One thing that impressed me was her note, ‘It’s not that I’m a little delicate flower who can’t survive in the world, in fact, I’m quite strong.’ I love that acknowledgment! A zappy little guide for us folk who see the world a bit differently…” Lorraine Chittock, Chile
“Several of Ronni’s solutions harmonize with messages I’ve been told by my guides over the years — really good advice that I had completely forgotten about. It was beautiful and affirming to read her truth and wisdom, and I greatly appreciated the many solutions I hadn’t thought about before – like making an Everything I Love book to look through on days when I’m having a case of the mean reds. Ronni intends her book to be something you can go back to when you’re upset, like looking up how to deal with a physical ailment, and I can already tell it’s something I’ll be referencing often in the near future.” — May Evans, USA
“I highly recommend it! Ronni has such an easy way with her writing. It feels like we’ve been invited to take a peek into her personal journal. She gives us insights through her experiences with being sensitive and the tools she has discovered.” — Maryellen De Vine, USA
My fav posts from the blog
EMPATHS DO YOUR LAUNDRY - FEB. 2023
Don't Wish You Were Someone Else - 2009
I went to sleep upset with my life and wishing I was someone else.
Halfway through the night, I journeyed and had an amazing dream message.
I was at a school taking different classes. I was traveling with a friend between classes when I looked down and noticed I wasn’t me! I was tall, larger, and had light, black skin. I panicked!
“What color are my eyes?” I asked my companion. “Brown,” she answered. “Where are my green eyes? I like having green eyes?!”
We wandered around the campus with me feeling steadily uncomfortable. As this new body, I noted that I was less visible than in my short body, realizing now, being little garnered much more special attention. Being taller I was lost in the crowd, even invisible. I missed the way my rings looked on my fingers. How my hair curled naturally in little ringlets on the ends. Where was my little pug nose? I realized I liked my face, if even for the familiarity of it. Maybe even missed it, which was weird because it was my face I’d find the most imperfections!
“When do I get my old body back?” I pleaded to my friend. “This doesn’t feel right.”
“You don’t. This is yours now.” she told me flatly.
When I woke from the dream, I was so relieved, and for the first time in awhile, I was happy to be me. This was an unusual lesson learned, because I spent most of the summer wishing I was something I was not. I saw myself from others’ eyes–being inferior to others–which, perhaps now, wasn’t real at all. Where I was short, I thought I should be tall and long. Where I was fair, I thought I should be tan. Where I was curvy, I thought I should be slim and narrow. Trips to the pool made all of this thinking worse! I thought I was not enough and invisible as who I was. And now with this dream, I realized whether it was others’ perceptions or wants, it didn’t matter, because deep down, it wasn’t mine. Being all those things–short, curvy, fair–is who I am right now, and who makes up Ronni.
How many messages do we receive on a daily basis, or, even messages that replay over and over from the learned past, that tell us who we are is not enough? That someone or something is better, so we should try to be what we are not. As if we could? How often do we stop to really look at ourselves and see the beauty we are and the superior gifts only we possess?
I remember when I was in college–a huge campus in Maryland–a much younger Ronni. Where I thought I was special, there were now hundreds of folks that were just as special. If I could draw, there were those who could draw expertly. If I could dance, you guessed it, there were amazing dancers. The worst of this equation happened when my small group of pals let in a new friend. She was also little and funny, and even, brown hair and green eyes too. My pals seemed to like her better! Why, I wasn’t special at all now.
Tears rolled down my face when I relayed the story to my Mom, and it was there that I learned where my “not good enough’s” originated from. She didn’t say that I was special just because I was me, or anything like that. There was only silence on the other end of the line.
I’d like to go back to that college girl and tell her, “We aren’t our parts, or, because you are short, have green eyes, and will later teach fairy stuff. You aren’t your special abilities or your talents either, or even what you do. You don’t have to be something you are not–such as tall, narrow, or dark–to please someone else, or to be loved, or even wanted. You should never have to work that hard for love or acceptance. Like an individual snowflake with it’s own combination of beauty, you are unique. Love what you are right now. Accept and revel in it! All of it is you. Enjoy every bit of it–whether, the crooked nose, or the juicy thighs! You don’t have to try to be someone you are not, because, when I was, I wasn’t happy. I missed me.
And for Mom, and her Mom before that, I wish you heard the same message long ago.
Wrong or Right Way - 2015
If You Don't like My Dog, I Probably Won't Like You - 2012
After several experiences, I now use this model as a frame of reference, and call this my DOG THEORY.
Weeks back, when the landlords had a painter come to take care of the outside of the house, I had an immediate dislike of the man. I don’t usually have this happen, and I don’t usually make quick judgements of people, so I dismissed the feeling. When Emma Lou ran out to say hello, he was very curt with her, which I thought was odd. She is after all, really cute. Once painting began, he told me to block off the pet door because he needed to paint the deck. He said, “SHE likes to come and poop on the deck.” Not calling her by name, but SHE. At this point, I really didn’t like him. Turns out that empathic hit was accurate how he treated my time, space, and belongings, when he rushed through the job, lost one of my keys, and threw my stuff into the middle of the yard.
I had a new friend at church awhile back, who came to visit at the house. He was nice to the girls but saw them as “dogs”, if you know what I mean, talking of pack animal mentalities and hierarchies. When I explained I couldn’t stay out late at night because I needed to take care of the girls, he ignored that need and told me they’d be just fine, and for me to come out and have fun. He later showed himself as someone who cared very little about what I needed.
And finally, I recently had my propane converted to gas, thanks to my great landlords. The process will save me a ton of money on bills. The oven was converted and apparently, there was some kind of problem with the appliance. While baking, the whole house smelled like gas! I called the gas company who sent over the crankiest man I’ve ever met. He came into the house and as Emma jumped up to say hello he screamed at her, “Stay down!” He wasn’t even nice about it. He explained poorly to me what the problem was with the stove, and when I didn’t understand, he snapped at me! Not once, but twice. How he treated Emma was a clear indication, again, how he’d treat me.
So there really is something behind my dog theory. I wish I could take Emma Lou with me everywhere to be able to weed out potential friends and colleagues. For now, I will trust that gut feeling (empathic hit) I first get when I meet people, and not dismiss it.
Signs You Have Been Visited by a Ghost - 2010
In honor of Halloween, I share the signs I’ve noticed when a ghost or spirit is visiting, in case this holiday you may have a visit of your own.
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Your smoke detector goes off. The other day I was talking out loud to my departed mom hoping for a response. Next thing that happened was my smoke detector started to beep and then wheeze. Ordinarily I would think this was a symptom of a dying battery, but my psychic spot on my head ached at the same time. Our loved ones can manipulate things in the environment especially electrical or mechanical devices. Years ago, my Mom visited and a music box she had given my husband–a cute fire engine whose ladder would go up and down–began playing with no assistance. Oh, and the detector never made another sound after that.
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Your head hurts. As I previously mentioned, if you are psychically in-tuned, you may have a part of your body that announces the presence of a ghost or other-world-ly. Some folks get chills, others stomach flip-flops, my head will ache. My head will ache a lot if a spirit reallywants my attention. I have a different head ache if a spirit is around that is negative. This is a good warning for me. The ache will also be present with the stomach flip-flop.
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The dog acts weird. There’s been some nights where this place has been Grand Central Station with ghost visits. Emma Lou seems to flow with whatever is occurring, but Sarah, my little sensitive, will pace the hallways, agitated.
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Intrusive, recurring thoughts. This could be your own OCD, or you have an intruder bothering you. If the thoughts seems foreign to you or separate, or even a negative running commentary, simply ask your new friend to take a walk. Sometimes, I have a need for cigarette. In the empath world, I am either picking up on my bff Wendy, or it’s one of my smoker departed loved ones. (I must mention, I don’t smoke at all).
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Seeing shadows. Not too long ago in this blog, I wrote about my aunt visiting. This was the second time I witnessed a shadow in front of me. The first was seen in a local seance when a healing ghost stood in front of me and blocked out the candle behind her.
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You hear them. If you are clairaudient (clear hearing), you may hear with your inner ear the ghost’s voice. (see #4). This is a great way to ask the spirit what message he/she has for you or to find out who is visiting and why.
Ghosts are just people in their spirit suits
If you have a spirit visiting, if it feels like friend or foe, remember, you are in charge. Ghosts are just people in their spirit suits. You wouldn’t let anyone barge through your front door. Create boundaries. Let them know what is okay or not okay. When my aunt visited and scared the socks off of me, I made it very clear that visits were nice, but not hovering over my bed at night. Seriously creepy.
In an amateur ghost investigation that I took part of, one of the investigators was psychically very open. Spirits love this. The ghost was holding her arm and not letting go. This wasn’t some evil entity trying to harm her, but someone very anxious to be known. BUT, this was scaring her and not very nice social behavior. In a situation like that, it’s perfectly necessary and acceptable to tell the ghost to back off and that it was not okay to do that. If some creepy guy wanted my attention at a party and grabbed my arm, you know I’d make my objection known.
Happy ghost visits.
Wisdom at the Dentist - 2015
How to Overload a Sensitive - 2014
Sensitive folks overload easily. The cause is not because we are delicate or weak. We are just wired to pick up all the layers of information at once. This means we pick up the subtle nuances most miss, like the sound of the doves singing outside the window, or that a friend is cranky even though she hasn’t said or showed any indication. On the flip side of this is we can take in all that information and fry our brains and emotions when it gets way too much. You can be pretty sure a sensitive has gone into overload when they show signs of shutdown which include a blank look, anxiety/nervousness, spaced-out feeling, or signs of insecurity. Symptoms look different in each sensitive. And what every sensitive wants is to be understood and known. So non-sensitives, LEARN THESE. And sensitives, share this list with your non-sensitives.
The Top 10 Ways to Overload a Sensitive
(and to be loving and kind to your sensitive AVOID these):
1. Push.
This warning label “do not push” should come with every sensitive born into this world. Pushing does not motivate a sensitive. It forces the automatic shut down valve to go off. Pushing only speeds up the “take in-sort through-digest” process making overwhelm happen faster because there’s no time to digest. It also just really pisses us off.
2. Load a ton of responsibility on our shoulders.
Be sure to not acknowledge or appreciate what we are already doing, and then add more.
That one speaks for itself, but I must say, as a tribe, sensitive folk are usually over-responsible and will take on a great deal as it is.
3. Increase sensory input.
Add very loud music we can’t control, or let in a swarm of flies in the room that can’t be caught. I am a tolerant person but when my neighbor plays country music on full throttle until 2 a.m., I’m going to get a little out of balance.
4. Expect a day of constant stimulation out of us.
Start the day early by taking us out for the day shopping, then stop at a crowded restaurant, go sight-seeing, and then dancing all night with a ton of noise and people. Just see what happens. Observe. Be sure to not include any breaks or alone time.
5. Add any illness to the day and then introduce either 1/, 2/, or 3/. Heck, even 4/.
Add llness or even a woman’s “time of the month,” and we are down for the count. Then all the sensory input and noise just swoops right in because our thin walls are way down. It’s a little like having the radio on several channels at once.
6. Add a crowd.
I still write about the Willie Nelson concert I went to that had a line wrapped around the casino to get into, then I was surrounded by a huge stadium-filled crowd screaming. Thank goodness it was outside because a crowd packed into a room with no walls? Oh fun.
7. Increase time pressure.
This one goes along with the “pushing” category. Sensitive folk like to flow in the zone moving to their own rhythms. We are great with deadlines but we need to control how we get there. I watch Project Runway and each episode when the designers get closer to presenting their creations, we can feel their tension through the screen. Let us control our rhythm.
8. Layer on the emotional sad stories.
We can sometimes overload from reading the Facebook feed of sad stories everyone is feeling. We feel compassion when our friends are going through rough times. Our hearts can jump out of our chests and MERGE. Our empathy is our superpower and it can be unbalanced at times when it’s multiplied.
9. Give us too much change at once.
We like our change in smaller steps; a little like slowly entering the pool rather then diving right in. We get in there, it just takes a little longer.
10. Add too many little technical things that don’t work.
I am sure this one matches everyone not just sensitive folk. Have a day where the bank screws up your account, or your computer doesn’t respond, or there’s a glitch in Photoshop and you lost all your data, and we will get rather testy. THEN add any two from the above list and we frazzle up quite good.
So, be kind to a sensitive today. Understand what creates overload and what makes life work swimmingly well for your sensitive friend. And for goodness sake, never ever say, “You need to toughen up instead!” That’s like being short and being told to be tall! Say that and you will see a different kind of overload.